Do you ever worry about your partner be involved in the affair? Have you ever wondered what makes couples become easy prey for anyone else who is looking for a reason to deviate? If so, then you have a lot of friends. Given all the news and movies about cheating spouse, you must be an ostrich with his head buried in the sand, at least consider the possibility.
If you always say, "My partner would never betray me", you are being unrealistic and naive. Most people that cheating is not a bad or weak individuals, but they are vulnerable at the time the event starts.
Of course, there are some husbands and wives who are involved in a lot of cheating and seemed unable to staunch the different situations. In this article, will focus on a couple who have a history of loyal and then surprise him and others with an affair.
Here are some points to consider when you are considering ways to strengthen your marriage and reduce the likelihood that your partner will find solace in the arms of someone else:
1. A couple who are having problems with aging and stereotypes "midlife crisis" was vulnerable. Confidence can be decreased when the individual feels less attractive and desirable, and this could make him more susceptible to attention and praise from someone other than their partner.
2. A spouse who feels unappreciated by her partner are at high risk to become involved with other people who appreciate good quality and not neglect. Many couples who deviate said that the couple just looking at them as a salary or someone to make their lives easier. They do not feel appreciated for who they are and their positive contribution to the marriage.
3. A couple who are in a marriage without sex is very vulnerable. This also applies when there is sexual intercourse but couples consider sex as a "task".
Couples sometimes try to survive for many years in this situation, try to tolerate the situation for the sake of marriage or children. But the fact is that the couple was often so easy prey when it comes "hot sex" with someone who enjoys it.
4. A spouse who does not feel emotionally connected with their partners at risk. In this situation, the individual may first be involved in emotional affair with co-workers or business associates, and this may eventually lead to more. A wedding is reduced intimacy and feeling the relationship between husband and wife is the trigger for cheating.
5. A couple of depression, anxiety, and stress tremendous risk. When a person is depressed, anxious, or under prolonged stress, decreased sexual libido. As a result, the pair might mistakenly conclude that he was no longer in love with your partner, not realizing that the physiological and emotional impact on the lack of sexual desire.
Also, people who are depressed tend to focus on the negative things in a relationship and minimizes positive. Thus, it is very easy for them to blame the partner for any problems in the marriage and see a new sexual partner who arouse their desire as validation that everything is the fault of the pair.
If you always say, "My partner would never betray me", you are being unrealistic and naive. Most people that cheating is not a bad or weak individuals, but they are vulnerable at the time the event starts.
Of course, there are some husbands and wives who are involved in a lot of cheating and seemed unable to staunch the different situations. In this article, will focus on a couple who have a history of loyal and then surprise him and others with an affair.
Here are some points to consider when you are considering ways to strengthen your marriage and reduce the likelihood that your partner will find solace in the arms of someone else:
1. A couple who are having problems with aging and stereotypes "midlife crisis" was vulnerable. Confidence can be decreased when the individual feels less attractive and desirable, and this could make him more susceptible to attention and praise from someone other than their partner.
2. A spouse who feels unappreciated by her partner are at high risk to become involved with other people who appreciate good quality and not neglect. Many couples who deviate said that the couple just looking at them as a salary or someone to make their lives easier. They do not feel appreciated for who they are and their positive contribution to the marriage.
3. A couple who are in a marriage without sex is very vulnerable. This also applies when there is sexual intercourse but couples consider sex as a "task".
Couples sometimes try to survive for many years in this situation, try to tolerate the situation for the sake of marriage or children. But the fact is that the couple was often so easy prey when it comes "hot sex" with someone who enjoys it.
4. A spouse who does not feel emotionally connected with their partners at risk. In this situation, the individual may first be involved in emotional affair with co-workers or business associates, and this may eventually lead to more. A wedding is reduced intimacy and feeling the relationship between husband and wife is the trigger for cheating.
5. A couple of depression, anxiety, and stress tremendous risk. When a person is depressed, anxious, or under prolonged stress, decreased sexual libido. As a result, the pair might mistakenly conclude that he was no longer in love with your partner, not realizing that the physiological and emotional impact on the lack of sexual desire.
Also, people who are depressed tend to focus on the negative things in a relationship and minimizes positive. Thus, it is very easy for them to blame the partner for any problems in the marriage and see a new sexual partner who arouse their desire as validation that everything is the fault of the pair.
6. A couple who are in unhappy marriages with unresolved issues in the long-term risk. Despair, anger, frustration, and bitterness caused emotional debris that accumulate pairing more vulnerable to infidelity. Often, one or both parties do not have the skills to solve problems.
7. A couple who have difficulty in dealing with relationship issues directly vulnerable to cheating. He will tend to pretend that everything is fine and try to bury negative feelings in order to keep the peace.
But ultimately unresolved feelings will arise and put passion in marriage. At that time, the pair still may not know about the depth of unhappiness partner and her vulnerability to cheating.
8. A spouse who does not have good problem solving skills and do not know what to do about an unsatisfactory marriage was vulnerable. Unusual for couples in this position drift into an affair as a way to finally escape from the wedding when the couple know. By doing so, one party gives his partner a good reason to ask for a divorce and take the initiative to end the marriage.
9. A couple who use an escape as a way to avoid having to deal with problems that are vulnerable. This behavior may take the form of alcohol or drug abuse, work all the time, or is involved in an affair. When the couple had a history of irresponsible and not deal with the problem, then escape from the reality of marriage problems by placing the focus and energy into the affair as a distraction and diversion is a very real possibility.
10. A spouse who does not feel that their partner really know he was and did not care about it vulnerable. Often, an individual who is involved in the affair will tell the counselor that other people understand and know him much better than their own spouses. If the partner is not interested in life, thoughts, and feelings of his partner, pain and emotional pain produced can make it more prone to infidelity.
Some of the situations listed above are situational, such as aging and prolonged stress, and may require the provision of extra care and attention for a while. Others are a reflection of long-term relationships with major issues unresolved.
When you rate the marriage and steps should be taken to strengthen, remember the importance of considering and giving time, effort, and a consistent focus on your relationship.
Whatever you do, do not neglect your marriage or your spouse. After all, if you do not appreciate and respect your partner, there may be others out there who would love to come in and fill the void.
7. A couple who have difficulty in dealing with relationship issues directly vulnerable to cheating. He will tend to pretend that everything is fine and try to bury negative feelings in order to keep the peace.
But ultimately unresolved feelings will arise and put passion in marriage. At that time, the pair still may not know about the depth of unhappiness partner and her vulnerability to cheating.
8. A spouse who does not have good problem solving skills and do not know what to do about an unsatisfactory marriage was vulnerable. Unusual for couples in this position drift into an affair as a way to finally escape from the wedding when the couple know. By doing so, one party gives his partner a good reason to ask for a divorce and take the initiative to end the marriage.
9. A couple who use an escape as a way to avoid having to deal with problems that are vulnerable. This behavior may take the form of alcohol or drug abuse, work all the time, or is involved in an affair. When the couple had a history of irresponsible and not deal with the problem, then escape from the reality of marriage problems by placing the focus and energy into the affair as a distraction and diversion is a very real possibility.
10. A spouse who does not feel that their partner really know he was and did not care about it vulnerable. Often, an individual who is involved in the affair will tell the counselor that other people understand and know him much better than their own spouses. If the partner is not interested in life, thoughts, and feelings of his partner, pain and emotional pain produced can make it more prone to infidelity.
Some of the situations listed above are situational, such as aging and prolonged stress, and may require the provision of extra care and attention for a while. Others are a reflection of long-term relationships with major issues unresolved.
When you rate the marriage and steps should be taken to strengthen, remember the importance of considering and giving time, effort, and a consistent focus on your relationship.
Whatever you do, do not neglect your marriage or your spouse. After all, if you do not appreciate and respect your partner, there may be others out there who would love to come in and fill the void.
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