Often, couples looking for suggestions on how to improve their intimacy, good communication skills, increase the passion in their sexual relationships, etc. Here is a suggestion to build relationships, which combines communication, sex, and individual responsibility. It should be understood that training in couples therapy can be very helpful and useful, however, depending on the problems you might encounter this exercise can only give plestar placed on a much larger wound. Couples therapy can serve as a tool to practice and take advantage of exercise while exploring how patterns and interaction begins.
1. Taking time
Set the time once a month to commit to talk with your partner about your relationship. This dialogue should include the likes and dislikes about the relationship. This exercise is designed to enable partners to express their feelings rather than let hatred for waking up from time to time. It could be 15 minutes at the end of the day when you and your partner can commit to not be distracted by other things and communicate with each other.
2. Communication skills
The ability to talk with your partner in a way that allows you to be heard and also without provoking is a difficult balance to achieve. Learn how to communicate better should include the ability to listen well. First, you must learn how to listen and speak of your thoughts and feelings instead of your defense. Walk away until you can listen and speak calmly allows you to pay more attention to your partner when you are communicating.
During the communication, try using the statement "I", such as "I feel angry when you come home late at night" instead of "You make me angry when you come home late at night". This allows for you to express your feelings without blaming your partner. Communication tends to run more smoothly this way, rather than you and your spouse become defensive when you try to communicate your needs.
3. priority
Think about things that are important in our lives and give priority to certain aspects can be very important. When we rule out a relationship, it sends a strong message to our partners, that we might not try to send, but the message is that we are not willing to give the time and effort for a committed relationship.
Is not it interesting that during the phase of dating, relationship we mean everything? We provide primary care and the exclusion of all priorities to make room for a potential mate. How can we take the time to then put down everything, but we can not do it now? If we can get ready or we are afraid to be vulnerable and sacrifice? Relationships are not easy, requires effort and attention where people have to be ready.
4. attention
The concern is awareness of what is going on in your relationship. Often, partners try to "sweep the problem under the rug" and ignore. It just builds resentment and hurt feelings in relationships. People have to overcome problems when they come out of hiding in the back that allows the problem becomes accumulate.
5. firmness
A healthy balance between being passive and being aggressive is firmness. Be firm with your partner allows you to express your needs and desires in a way that is direct and reasonable. It also allows you to express your thoughts, opinions, feelings and ideas without saving it in the future and hope you will say. You can express your thoughts in a way that expresses what you want, but not ordered or had someone like the aggressive communication style. Finding the balance of firmness difficult, but worth the time to practice.
1. Taking time
Set the time once a month to commit to talk with your partner about your relationship. This dialogue should include the likes and dislikes about the relationship. This exercise is designed to enable partners to express their feelings rather than let hatred for waking up from time to time. It could be 15 minutes at the end of the day when you and your partner can commit to not be distracted by other things and communicate with each other.
2. Communication skills
The ability to talk with your partner in a way that allows you to be heard and also without provoking is a difficult balance to achieve. Learn how to communicate better should include the ability to listen well. First, you must learn how to listen and speak of your thoughts and feelings instead of your defense. Walk away until you can listen and speak calmly allows you to pay more attention to your partner when you are communicating.
During the communication, try using the statement "I", such as "I feel angry when you come home late at night" instead of "You make me angry when you come home late at night". This allows for you to express your feelings without blaming your partner. Communication tends to run more smoothly this way, rather than you and your spouse become defensive when you try to communicate your needs.
3. priority
Think about things that are important in our lives and give priority to certain aspects can be very important. When we rule out a relationship, it sends a strong message to our partners, that we might not try to send, but the message is that we are not willing to give the time and effort for a committed relationship.
Is not it interesting that during the phase of dating, relationship we mean everything? We provide primary care and the exclusion of all priorities to make room for a potential mate. How can we take the time to then put down everything, but we can not do it now? If we can get ready or we are afraid to be vulnerable and sacrifice? Relationships are not easy, requires effort and attention where people have to be ready.
4. attention
The concern is awareness of what is going on in your relationship. Often, partners try to "sweep the problem under the rug" and ignore. It just builds resentment and hurt feelings in relationships. People have to overcome problems when they come out of hiding in the back that allows the problem becomes accumulate.
5. firmness
A healthy balance between being passive and being aggressive is firmness. Be firm with your partner allows you to express your needs and desires in a way that is direct and reasonable. It also allows you to express your thoughts, opinions, feelings and ideas without saving it in the future and hope you will say. You can express your thoughts in a way that expresses what you want, but not ordered or had someone like the aggressive communication style. Finding the balance of firmness difficult, but worth the time to practice.
6. calm down
Calming our own feelings without reacting of intense emotion allows us to communicate appropriately. During strong emotions, we tend to react with the same emotional level rather than calm down and be calm. The ability to entertain yourself also means you have to calm down even when you feel hurt and your spouse does not validate you or tell you what you want to hear.
7. Conflict resolution
Resolving conflicts can seem overwhelming because we sometimes allow the conflict to continue and wounded began to emerge. Not allow for an unresolved conflict or resentment to awaken very important for couples. Conflict resolution should be done when you and your partner calm and willing to talk until you can reach a compromise. Resolve conflicts involving talks about the things you want to change and agreement that you are willing to change the things you can.
8. Sexual Relations
Your sexual relationship can often be a metaphor for how you function as a couple. It is important that you are open and honest with your partner about your sexual relationship and to be open and honest with yourself. First, if you do not know yourself, your own body, preferences and lack's favorite of your own, then take time to be alone, comfortable, and does not interfere with sitting in your bedroom, bathroom, or any other convenient place to explore your body touch and find what you like. This will allow you to become more confident and calm when you are with your partner and increase the likelihood that you will share your likes and dislikes with him too.
Initially, try exploring each other's bodies with a touch of the hand or mouth, without focusing on the genital or oral penetration and share things that feel good to one another. Try this for a few days, then focus on the genitals and again to share what things you most enjoy with your partner.
9. Self exploration
Look inside ourselves and find out how we contribute to the problem in a relationship is something that most people away. This activity can be very difficult and most people tend to look for errors on their partners and do not in themselves. First, think about the general debate that you and your partner have and explore how you contribute to this difference of opinion. Most of the time we are trying to change our spouses instead of changing ourselves.
10. Finding balance
Maintaining a balance between your identity as an individual and your identity as a couple can be very difficult. Having this balance is very important for the relationship, but because we tend to value our relationship more when we have our own independence and autonomy, it is an important aspect of the overall relationship.
Calming our own feelings without reacting of intense emotion allows us to communicate appropriately. During strong emotions, we tend to react with the same emotional level rather than calm down and be calm. The ability to entertain yourself also means you have to calm down even when you feel hurt and your spouse does not validate you or tell you what you want to hear.
7. Conflict resolution
Resolving conflicts can seem overwhelming because we sometimes allow the conflict to continue and wounded began to emerge. Not allow for an unresolved conflict or resentment to awaken very important for couples. Conflict resolution should be done when you and your partner calm and willing to talk until you can reach a compromise. Resolve conflicts involving talks about the things you want to change and agreement that you are willing to change the things you can.
8. Sexual Relations
Your sexual relationship can often be a metaphor for how you function as a couple. It is important that you are open and honest with your partner about your sexual relationship and to be open and honest with yourself. First, if you do not know yourself, your own body, preferences and lack's favorite of your own, then take time to be alone, comfortable, and does not interfere with sitting in your bedroom, bathroom, or any other convenient place to explore your body touch and find what you like. This will allow you to become more confident and calm when you are with your partner and increase the likelihood that you will share your likes and dislikes with him too.
Initially, try exploring each other's bodies with a touch of the hand or mouth, without focusing on the genital or oral penetration and share things that feel good to one another. Try this for a few days, then focus on the genitals and again to share what things you most enjoy with your partner.
9. Self exploration
Look inside ourselves and find out how we contribute to the problem in a relationship is something that most people away. This activity can be very difficult and most people tend to look for errors on their partners and do not in themselves. First, think about the general debate that you and your partner have and explore how you contribute to this difference of opinion. Most of the time we are trying to change our spouses instead of changing ourselves.
10. Finding balance
Maintaining a balance between your identity as an individual and your identity as a couple can be very difficult. Having this balance is very important for the relationship, but because we tend to value our relationship more when we have our own independence and autonomy, it is an important aspect of the overall relationship.
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