There will be times in life marriage where husband and wife relationship became strained. When this happens, recall the original purpose of building a home you shared with your partner. Dispose of personal selfishness, arrogance and pride that your married life can be saved. Your partner are not created to be your enemy. He created not to hurt your feelings. He was created to be someone you are worth and help you in life hurdles in joy and sorrow.
If your current marital relationship with a partner is not in harmony, then immediately decide, whether you will maintain hostility to him or make peace? There is absolutely no point in maintaining hostilities with your partner because it will only further increase the burden you and getting hurt feelings. Therefore, if you are having trouble getting started at peace with it, here are some ways that you can do, including:
1. Introspection
Do you feel your self-righteous? Do you feel all the problems caused by your spouse? In a domestic life no one who is most right and who is wrong, if there is a mistake it is a mistake you both. Therefore, try to look inward for a moment, realizing that no one perfect man, and then apologize for your weaknesses.
2. Humility
Stubborn nature, pride, proud and will not budge should not be brought into the marriage. Supposedly, when you are determined to build a household with such things it already you throw away the previous day. Be humble, because if one is humble, then he will not easily offended and easy to forgive.
3. Do not rigid
Do not be rigid against your partner, be flexible. Apart from the experience of your life, or the care you get from your parents since childhood, rigidity will only make your partner feel uncomfortable being close to you.
4. Be tolerant
Conversely, be tolerant to anyone, especially to your partner. Do not be too curb it, give him the freedom to choose and maintain the trust you have given him. If your partner major offenses, cheating may be, this is really a test for you, whether you should forgive him or not. For this case it looks like you have to ask the help of a third party to make a decision.
5. Positive Thinking
Positive thinking is an effective way to make peace with your partner, because if a person is able to think positively, then it will not be easy to have bad thoughts to others or always feel suspicious, especially for couples.
6. Given the romantic days of both
Courtship should not end when the couple had been married, but the courtship should still be maintained even been married. Why is that? It aims to be still able to maintain periods romantic and uplifting love just like when you've known him first. Therefore, if you are currently hostile, then remember back in the days when you were dating romantic first, rest assured that if you loved him sincerely, then you will never have the desire to hostile.
7. Appreciate couples
Generally the causes of conflict in the household in the absence of mutual respect between the pair. Therefore, cherish your spouse, appreciate anything even for the smallest things he had done for the sake of you and your family.
8. Ask for help from others
Sometimes when your spouse has been so hurt his heart, causing it difficult to get an apology from him. So to be able to ease the pain of his heart, you can ask for help from others close to your partner to tell him that you want to make peace with him. You can ask the help of his parents, his brother or his best friend to convey your sincere desire and promise to myself not to repeat them.
9. No longer the issue of
Invite your partner to forget the conflicts that have occurred, never again brought up the issue that caused the dispute. Convince him that he's past is past him and your past is your past, but the future belongs to you both.
If your current marital relationship with a partner is not in harmony, then immediately decide, whether you will maintain hostility to him or make peace? There is absolutely no point in maintaining hostilities with your partner because it will only further increase the burden you and getting hurt feelings. Therefore, if you are having trouble getting started at peace with it, here are some ways that you can do, including:
1. Introspection
Do you feel your self-righteous? Do you feel all the problems caused by your spouse? In a domestic life no one who is most right and who is wrong, if there is a mistake it is a mistake you both. Therefore, try to look inward for a moment, realizing that no one perfect man, and then apologize for your weaknesses.
2. Humility
Stubborn nature, pride, proud and will not budge should not be brought into the marriage. Supposedly, when you are determined to build a household with such things it already you throw away the previous day. Be humble, because if one is humble, then he will not easily offended and easy to forgive.
3. Do not rigid
Do not be rigid against your partner, be flexible. Apart from the experience of your life, or the care you get from your parents since childhood, rigidity will only make your partner feel uncomfortable being close to you.
4. Be tolerant
Conversely, be tolerant to anyone, especially to your partner. Do not be too curb it, give him the freedom to choose and maintain the trust you have given him. If your partner major offenses, cheating may be, this is really a test for you, whether you should forgive him or not. For this case it looks like you have to ask the help of a third party to make a decision.
5. Positive Thinking
Positive thinking is an effective way to make peace with your partner, because if a person is able to think positively, then it will not be easy to have bad thoughts to others or always feel suspicious, especially for couples.
6. Given the romantic days of both
Courtship should not end when the couple had been married, but the courtship should still be maintained even been married. Why is that? It aims to be still able to maintain periods romantic and uplifting love just like when you've known him first. Therefore, if you are currently hostile, then remember back in the days when you were dating romantic first, rest assured that if you loved him sincerely, then you will never have the desire to hostile.
7. Appreciate couples
Generally the causes of conflict in the household in the absence of mutual respect between the pair. Therefore, cherish your spouse, appreciate anything even for the smallest things he had done for the sake of you and your family.
8. Ask for help from others
Sometimes when your spouse has been so hurt his heart, causing it difficult to get an apology from him. So to be able to ease the pain of his heart, you can ask for help from others close to your partner to tell him that you want to make peace with him. You can ask the help of his parents, his brother or his best friend to convey your sincere desire and promise to myself not to repeat them.
9. No longer the issue of
Invite your partner to forget the conflicts that have occurred, never again brought up the issue that caused the dispute. Convince him that he's past is past him and your past is your past, but the future belongs to you both.
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