Restoring confidence is a process that takes time. Here are 10 ways that will help you on this journey.
1. Acknowledge your wrongdoing
Be honest to your partner completely. Do not try to cover it up. If you are not completely honest, the truth will reveal itself later and the trust will be more difficult to rectify. If you are an affair of wrongdoing, please explain in detail. It will create a real picture in your partner that will be very difficult to remove.
2. Apologize sincerely
It may occur repeatedly. Let your partner see the pain that you feel as betrayed. If you are very serious betrayal, it will take a long time. Your partner needs to look inside your sorrow for the wrong done you, and that you are truly sorry.
3. Do not justify your actions
Do not be tempted to convey the reasons why you do what you have done. When you have done something wrong, admit it and do not justify it. There is no reason whatsoever that would justify betrayal. It will only make you sound insincere and not really sorry. Admit it is your fault, and not others.
4. Accept your partner's anger
Your partner will be very angry with you on your offense. He will feel very hurt because it has been betrayed. This anger will not quite be disclosed once. He will show his anger many times, depending on the nature of your offense. Be patient when your partner heal herself from feeling betrayed.
5. Do not hide anything from your partner
Let him know where you are at all times so that they do not have to wonder. This is not just a report yourself to your partner; This shows respect. This will lead to a sense of trust. Do what you say you will do. If your plans change, let your partner.
6. Express your gratitude on forgiveness
Very difficult to forgive a spouse who has defected. Accept and appreciate forgiveness that has been given is an important partner in the process of rapprochement. Trust that your partner meant it when he forgives you. If you have not received forgiveness, be patient, it will come.
7. Pray for divine help in overcoming the problem that caused your betrayal
Nothing can beat the power of prayer. There are some things that humans can not do alone, and this is one of them. Divine aid available to you. Pray for help it. Nothing is impossible for Him.
8. Express your love every day
The words, "I love you" is very powerful. Tell it to your spouse every day. Then look for ways to show it, for example by helping to take care of children, household chores, and both dated regularly. Continue to think of ways to show your love.
9. Show your determination to be better
Let your face show a happy attitude but restrained. Let sadness you look without being too gloomy.
10. Live a life that can be trusted
In any case, be honest with yourself and your marriage covenant. In all the words and your actions show that you can be trusted. Over time, your words and actions will tell the story of your true repentance. It then will strengthen your marriage. It will be of great benefit to you, your spouse, and your children and grandchildren.
1. Acknowledge your wrongdoing
Be honest to your partner completely. Do not try to cover it up. If you are not completely honest, the truth will reveal itself later and the trust will be more difficult to rectify. If you are an affair of wrongdoing, please explain in detail. It will create a real picture in your partner that will be very difficult to remove.
2. Apologize sincerely
It may occur repeatedly. Let your partner see the pain that you feel as betrayed. If you are very serious betrayal, it will take a long time. Your partner needs to look inside your sorrow for the wrong done you, and that you are truly sorry.
3. Do not justify your actions
Do not be tempted to convey the reasons why you do what you have done. When you have done something wrong, admit it and do not justify it. There is no reason whatsoever that would justify betrayal. It will only make you sound insincere and not really sorry. Admit it is your fault, and not others.
4. Accept your partner's anger
Your partner will be very angry with you on your offense. He will feel very hurt because it has been betrayed. This anger will not quite be disclosed once. He will show his anger many times, depending on the nature of your offense. Be patient when your partner heal herself from feeling betrayed.
5. Do not hide anything from your partner
Let him know where you are at all times so that they do not have to wonder. This is not just a report yourself to your partner; This shows respect. This will lead to a sense of trust. Do what you say you will do. If your plans change, let your partner.
6. Express your gratitude on forgiveness
Very difficult to forgive a spouse who has defected. Accept and appreciate forgiveness that has been given is an important partner in the process of rapprochement. Trust that your partner meant it when he forgives you. If you have not received forgiveness, be patient, it will come.
7. Pray for divine help in overcoming the problem that caused your betrayal
Nothing can beat the power of prayer. There are some things that humans can not do alone, and this is one of them. Divine aid available to you. Pray for help it. Nothing is impossible for Him.
8. Express your love every day
The words, "I love you" is very powerful. Tell it to your spouse every day. Then look for ways to show it, for example by helping to take care of children, household chores, and both dated regularly. Continue to think of ways to show your love.
9. Show your determination to be better
Let your face show a happy attitude but restrained. Let sadness you look without being too gloomy.
10. Live a life that can be trusted
In any case, be honest with yourself and your marriage covenant. In all the words and your actions show that you can be trusted. Over time, your words and actions will tell the story of your true repentance. It then will strengthen your marriage. It will be of great benefit to you, your spouse, and your children and grandchildren.
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