One time I was deep in conversation with some fellow housewives. It talks about how the husband's attitude toward domestic chores at home. And they wonder when asked about my husband, and I replied that when my husband needed to be up early to wash clothes, manually or using hands, and clean the bathroom before she got ready to go to work. Usually when I'm sick or too tired. Instead the pair of some of my friends, did not care about the affairs of the household. Maybe some of you who read this article will think, a period in modern times like this there are models of man is that? "There is still trust me, because I saw his own case where the husband would never want to even just washing dishes former eating alone because think that washing dishes include kitchen work, and the kitchen is identical as women working space. The notion that domestic affairs at home is a matter of women is still deeply rooted in most of our society.
Most of our people are still clicking box compartmentalization of tasks between husband and wife. Paradigm is, the husband works for a living, while his wife takes care of all the household affairs. What's worse, many working wives looking for additional income should be fixed at the same time take care of the affairs of the house because, once again, the home affairs identical as "women's affairs". Though essentially running and success of a marriage and household it is the responsibility of both, husband and wife. And part of the family are tasks at home.
Basically, the foundation that must be understood is that success in marriage and the family that should be pursued together. And it should remove this restriction and the task of anyone who's task. Husband and wife must work together to build a happy home and succeed. If the foundation is understood it will appear mutual understanding and willingness to work together complementarity between husband and wife. The husband will no longer mind to do housework when he sees his wife hassles and vice versa, the wife will do nothing she could do to increase revenue if necessary.
For a newly married couple, who have not had a baby, sometimes occurs a shock that need adjustment. Such as when the wife who was shocked by the husband habits like putting things in vain and lazy to pack. The husband and wife who felt that too much set on neatness which he said was not a big problem. Or on the contrary, the wife who during single accustomed to eating out because of work, suddenly faced with a husband who likes to eat home cooking. Most needed in the face of such a shock is just good communication. Discuss together what is desirable and what is needed. What she likes and what makes uncomfortable.
Sharing duties also include things that should be discussed freely. The wife should not be considered brash or even feel embarrassed when I have to ask for help husband to help do the work in the kitchen if he does hassles. Conversely when the husband has been willing to happy to help, to appreciate. Do not be too much to comment especially criticize his work, rather than a sincere thank you.
Acknowledgements, although sounds simple, can be an excellent way to show our appreciation. I know many husbands would like to thank his wife who had prepared a meal for him, even though it was already regarded as the wife of the day-to-day tasks. Do not underestimate the power of a thank-you in strengthening the bonds of marriage. If you are not accustomed to say thank you to your partner, even if only for things he used to do every day, try to start, and you will find your partner become happier and more appreciated. The same thing also applies to wives. Every now and thank her husband because she has been working to provide for the family, even though he does not expect it and think of it as something that indeed he should do.
Again keep in mind is that marriage is not a single show, its success is not determined by one party alone. Husband and wife must work together, in every way to make it successful.
Most of our people are still clicking box compartmentalization of tasks between husband and wife. Paradigm is, the husband works for a living, while his wife takes care of all the household affairs. What's worse, many working wives looking for additional income should be fixed at the same time take care of the affairs of the house because, once again, the home affairs identical as "women's affairs". Though essentially running and success of a marriage and household it is the responsibility of both, husband and wife. And part of the family are tasks at home.
Basically, the foundation that must be understood is that success in marriage and the family that should be pursued together. And it should remove this restriction and the task of anyone who's task. Husband and wife must work together to build a happy home and succeed. If the foundation is understood it will appear mutual understanding and willingness to work together complementarity between husband and wife. The husband will no longer mind to do housework when he sees his wife hassles and vice versa, the wife will do nothing she could do to increase revenue if necessary.
For a newly married couple, who have not had a baby, sometimes occurs a shock that need adjustment. Such as when the wife who was shocked by the husband habits like putting things in vain and lazy to pack. The husband and wife who felt that too much set on neatness which he said was not a big problem. Or on the contrary, the wife who during single accustomed to eating out because of work, suddenly faced with a husband who likes to eat home cooking. Most needed in the face of such a shock is just good communication. Discuss together what is desirable and what is needed. What she likes and what makes uncomfortable.
Sharing duties also include things that should be discussed freely. The wife should not be considered brash or even feel embarrassed when I have to ask for help husband to help do the work in the kitchen if he does hassles. Conversely when the husband has been willing to happy to help, to appreciate. Do not be too much to comment especially criticize his work, rather than a sincere thank you.
Acknowledgements, although sounds simple, can be an excellent way to show our appreciation. I know many husbands would like to thank his wife who had prepared a meal for him, even though it was already regarded as the wife of the day-to-day tasks. Do not underestimate the power of a thank-you in strengthening the bonds of marriage. If you are not accustomed to say thank you to your partner, even if only for things he used to do every day, try to start, and you will find your partner become happier and more appreciated. The same thing also applies to wives. Every now and thank her husband because she has been working to provide for the family, even though he does not expect it and think of it as something that indeed he should do.
Again keep in mind is that marriage is not a single show, its success is not determined by one party alone. Husband and wife must work together, in every way to make it successful.
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